I'm wondering where the "bad mother" line is.
I mean, it's obvious that beating your children, leaving them home alone for a few days and/or teaching them to drive you home from the bar are on the bad side. But what about appearing on Toddlers and Tiaras? Never attempting to feed them vegetables? Only letting them listen to Raffi?
I feel like the line is blurry in some places.
For example, what about not minding when they're sick? It's not that I want them to feel bad - of course not. But to be calm and quiet? To lay around watching age-appropriate television? To not demand food every 5 minutes? To not fight about toys? To know that we have to stay home, lest we infect the rest of the population?
It's kind of awesome.
And I say that after cleaning up a lot of vomit this morning. Now we're on to strategically placed trash cans, unlike this morning. But they were fine when they went to bed last night. Stupid stomach virus.
Anyway, I'm wondering if enjoying this day at home, with lots of quiet and hugs, makes me a bad mom. Wouldn't a good mom be crying at their pathetic little faces? Or dragging them to the ER for fluids? Or something other than blogging and refilling water bottles and hugging?
It's not that I expect myself to be the perfect mother. That's a dream that gets ripped out of your hands when the second kid comes 15 months after the first and is colicky to boot. And anyone who's read this blog for a while knows that I can be on shaky terms with "good mother" as well. But I never thought I'd cross into "bad mother" territory. Yet here I am, feeling a sense of accomplishment and peace as my 2 older children nap on the couch and the little guy plays quietly.
Am I the only one?