Having another?
They say with so much surprise
And how far apart?
Your hands will be full
They are so close together
You will be busy!!!!!
I suppose people are just making small talk. I suppose they think their comments are original. I suppose they think I hadn't noticed that I will be bearing three children within (barely) four years. I suppose they think they are being amusing. Though I notice it's not people I consider my friends - or even good acquaintances - that say these things. It's other mothers though - the ones at the library, the park and the preschool.
Sometimes I see them wanting to ask if I'm a highly observant Catholic. Or whether I actually I did this on purpose. Or if I'm crazy.
And I wonder how they would react if I said, "Gee, it must be so easy with just one child. I'd be bored." (BTW, I don't actually think that's true. Some things are easier with one, some things are easier with a few). Or if I commented about how far apart THEIR children are, "Don't you want your children to be good friends?" Or maybe I should say something that hints at their husbands' lack of sexual desire.
Fertility is such a touchy subject. And while I think most people have become more sensitive about making comments to people struggling to have a (or another) child, apparently those of us who have a fertility surplus seem to be fair game. And today it's ticking me off.
(the final straw came when a mother of four - soon to be five - commented that I was sure going to have my hands full. Excuse me? She AND her husband don't even have enough hands for all of their kids.)
So, what family size comments have bothered you lately? I'm not the only one who's touchy, right?