I suck at email. Unless it's something that I can answer in one sentence or less, it can take me weeks to reply to an email. Last night I got this long apologetic email from L., an acquaintance that I'm hoping becomes a friend. She is one of the few people I've met lately that I really hope to become friends with. Anyway, we've been emailing and it took her a while to reply to me, for which she was very apologetic.
I, of all people, understand how email becomes low-priority. I owe people dear to me, like my best friend from high school and my beloved cousin, emails. I very rarely answer comments in email (though I do reply in the comments section, mostly) because I SUCK at email. Before I discovered blogging, I was much better about email. But now there's always a blog to read or write. And I LOVE to read and write blogs. So I didn't feel L. had any reason to apologize for taking a while to reply to my email.
But (and this would be the part that embarrasses me) I was afraid that L. hadn't replied to me because I had offended her. I was so relieved that she didn't hate me. Even though I am notorious for taking weeks to reply to emails that require serious thought, I assume that people will reply to me in a timely fashion. And if they don't I assume that they are upset or annoyed with me.
Clearly I am mentally ill.
And what's worse? I haven't replied to L. yet.
Is there a name for my emailing problem? Am I the only person afflicted?
*When I taught in the inner city, my co-workers and I used to talk about "issues". Whether it was a guy's commitment issues or a student's problem with math homework, we covered a lot of ground with the word "issues." One day my student Latisha was having a really rough day. She threw a huge temper tantrum and during it screamed what sounded like, "I got D'issues!!!!" And ever after that, whenever issues were very SERIOUS, we would call them "D'issues".
